Why do I consider child custody cases to be some of the most important cases to be tried? It is because the best adult of the two parents needs to raise the child in the event of divorce and only a good adult should participate in parenting a child under any circumstance. That’s why child custody cases are important.
A child’s future development can be enhanced or destroyed based on which adult raises the child or participates in the child’s parenting. If a drug-addicted, promiscuous woman raises a child, then that child’s chances of having a healthy childhood will be substantially diminished. The same, of course, is true for a child raised by a drug-addicted, irresponsible man.
A child will be an achiever or a loser, depending on what sort of adult raises the child. The sex of that adult is pretty much irrelevant.
I have seen a lot of men who are involved in child custody cases choose to defer to the mother of the child when it comes to which of them gets to raise the child, say, after a divorce. There are two reasons for that, in my experience. One is that men generally have become so wussified by this society that they are not willing to scrap for the right to raise their child. The other is some sort of misguided deference to the mother’s presumed better ability to raise the child. Neither of these two reasons withstands scrutiny.
If you, as a man, feel you would be the better parent for the child, fight for the right to raise that child. It will matter. I’ve seen too many men whose children are raised by misfit women and the children end up being ignorant, ill-behaved, self-centered little brats and then worthless young adults.
Women tend to fight harder than men do for custody of their children and, because of that, they generally obtain custody of the children after divorce (although that is not necessarily true if I represent the man). But, having said all that, I’ve seen many women who obtain or who already have custody of their child then allow a misfit man (the father) to continue to play a major role in the child’s life, even when the man is so sorry he should be under the prison, not just in it. I ask these women why and the answer is always something like, “Well, I think the child needs their father.” And, I want to shout…”Not if the man is going to teach them nothing but how to be a complete loser!”
So, when it comes to child custody, each case must be judged on its own merits. The fitness of a particular adult to parent a child or to participate in parenting a child must be appraised based on the character of the particular person. There should be no presumptions or assumptions about whether or not an adult is suited to parent a child.